In the events, the message about the declaration contains the exact time when the war will begin between the 2 clans.
The war ends if you capitulate.
"If you surrender, a temporary peace treaty will be made between your two clans (you cannot attack each other for a week even after canceling the treaty), and the charge level of your soul-well will be decreased (it can go to negative), and the winner's soul-well level will be increased by the same amount (it can go above maximum). The level of decrease depends on the size of the soul-well and the power relation between the two clans.
Capitulation is automatic, if you have at least 50 duels in a war and after a battle one of the following conditions occurs: - war is in progress for at least 3 days and one party has won at least twice as many as the other - war is in progress for at least 1 week and one party has at least 100 more victories than the other - war is in progress for at least 2 weeks and one party has at least 10 more victories than the other If a war goes on for 3 weeks it is ended with a draw; no one gets SE and no peace treaty is made."
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